Building self-esteem in adolescence ”In case you’re worried about what going to become of the y

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Rosemarie Layne
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Building self-esteem in adolescence ”In case you’re worried about what going to become of the y

Post by Rosemarie Layne » Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:45 am

”In case you’re worried about what going to become of the younger generation, it’s going to grow up and start worrying about the younger generation.” - Roger Allen

Unlike other periods in a child’s life, adolescence can be is a particularly trying time for parents and their charges alike. It’s a time for charting new horizons on the physical, intellectual and psycho social plane.

Depending on how well adolescents cope with these changes will determine how smooth a transition they make into adulthood and becoming productive citizens. That’s why it’s important that parents do all they can to assist in surmounting this hurdle. After all, you've already travelled this road yourself.

Self-esteem is paramount as this is a particularly sensitive time in development when your teenager will be seeking reinforcement more from peers. Depending on his/her standing with them a sense of superiority or inferiority may develop.

Expectedly, there will be conflict as the adolescent becomes progressively independent, and the parent tries to keep the reigns of control. Being an autocratic or domineering parent can do untold harm by stifling a teenager’s self-expression and attempts at independence.

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In this enlightened age, with all the parental advice and tips out there - and readily available from PAREDOS, ignorance is not a plausible defence. Some of you may still rely on the “Do as I say and not as I do” approach, and this, alone, can cause feelings of inferiority). If a parent is too demanding and overly critical, this can erode self-esteem. It may be one parent or both, but either way it has a negative result.

Some young people are constantly insulted and ridiculed for their “incompetence” in everyday tasks. Calling a teenage “idiot”, “clumsy” and making comments such as “What are you doing that for?”, “Don’t you see you can’t do it?” or “Any fool can do THAT!” can impact on your child and develop an inferiority complex and prevent him/ her from forming a balanced character.

In the transition to full independence, to cultivate a sense of self-worth, special care must be taken not to make the young person feel incompetent or useless, for example, if school grades are not the best, or he/she receives a poor conduct report. Don’t make the mistake of comparing his abilities to that of another sibling or school mate, or you’re on a sure-fire path to shutting him/her down and erecting a communication barrier.

Conversely, any talents and interests exhibited should be encouraged.
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